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Books By PHYLICIA PAUL-ELIAS
GETTING OUT OF SURVIVAL MODE
A 365-Day Journey Back to Living
You have spent years waiting for the other shoe to drop. Even in moments of peace, your mind is scanning the horizon for the next crisis. This is the weight of survival mode: a state of constant readiness that leaves you exhausted, isolated, and unable to enjoy the life you worked so hard to build. But what if you could finally lay your armor down?
This 365-day journey is not just a book. It is a daily invitation to trade panic for peace. It is a guide for the person who is tired of being “the strong one” and is finally ready to be the whole one.
What You Will Experience
The Daily Anchor: A year of structured scripture, prayers, and reflections designed to steady your nervous system every morning.
Brave Action Steps: Practical, daily challenges that move you out of your head and into intentional, healthy movement.
The Science of Safety: Insights into why your body stays in a state of high alert and how to gently teach it that the danger has passed.
Weekly Check-ins: Dedicated spaces to track your progress as you move from hyper-independence toward healthy connection.
The “Why” Behind the Guide
I wrote this because I spent too much of my own life surviving. I realized that while I was safe on the outside, I was still living in a state of emergency on the inside. I wanted to create the tool I needed: a daily, consistent hand to hold while navigating the long road back to joy.
Love Yourself First
Version 1: Renee's Journey
Renee is an expert at leaving. She knows how to pack a bag in minutes and how to keep her heart tucked away where no one can bruise it. After a lifetime of foster homes and temporary stays, she is finally offered the one thing she never thought she’d find: a permanent place to land. But for a girl who learned silence before safety, permanence feels like a trap.
Renee’s journey is a high-stakes exploration of the courage it takes to stop running. When the walls of protection you built start to feel like a prison, how do you find the strength to let someone stay?
Themes of Resilience
The Adult Adoption Experience: A raw and honest look at what it means to find family later in life.
Breaking the Cycle: The internal battle of choosing a new legacy over the trauma of the past.
The Language of Belonging: Watching Renee learn to speak her needs out loud for the very first time.
From the Readers
“I stayed up until 3:00 AM because I couldn’t leave Renee behind. Her fear of being ‘too much’ or ‘not enough’ hit me in a place I didn’t know was still hurting. This book is a healing balm for anyone who grew up too fast.”
Love Yourself First
Version 2: Asha's Journey
On the outside, Asha is the picture of success. She is a healer, a mentor, and a woman who has moved far beyond her painful beginnings. But the foundation of her life is built on a dangerous lie: that she is only safe if she is perfect. When her carefully managed world begins to fray, Asha is forced to confront the one person she has been avoiding for decades: herself.
This volume is a gripping look at the difference between needing someone and being safe with them. It is a story for every woman who has ever used her achievements to hide her ache.
The Internal Transformation
The Illusion of Control: Discover how Asha’s hyper-independence, once her greatest survival tool, became her greatest obstacle to love.
The Healer’s Journey: A unique perspective on how those who care for others often struggle most to care for themselves.
Choosing Self-Love: The radical moment when Asha realizes that loving herself first is the only way to truly love anyone else.
From the Readers
“Asha’s Journey is a masterclass in emotional honesty. It forced me to look at my own ‘need to be perfect’ and gave me the language to finally ask for help. A beautiful, gut-wrenching, and ultimately hopeful read.”
